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What to do for the holidays?
Okay here is the situation in third person: Mom lives with fiance in 2 bedroom 1 bathroom house. Mom has 2 daughters coming in for the holidays. Daughter 1 lives in state and visits twice a month, staying in the spare bedroom. She is married with a 1 yr old and pregnant. She's been living with her brother in law because they are having financial problems. But she wants to get a hotel for a week to visit. Daughter 2 lives out of the country, hasn't been home for a year, and will be coming alone as her husband is working. She planned on staying in a hotel for a few days around christmas to make room for everyone, and then return and sleep on the couch for the next few days after the brother in law left to go to work. There are no financial problems, just a desire to spend time with everyone. If this was your family - who would stay where? Clearly I'm the second daughter. My problem is: my sister is telling everyone that she Wants to stay in a hotel for the week because there isn't enough room for her, her husband, the baby & all their stuff. But she's doing it to make me feel guilty & look bad for not staying in the hotel myself. I know she's intimidated to have me home because everyone is very excited to see me again. But the way she is acting is making it difficult for me to remember that I really want to spend time with her & my nephew. (Plus, I'm young, & both my husband & mom have an issue with me going to the hotel alone at night - & I'm not flying across the world to stay in a hotel. I'm used to always staying in my old room with my family. My sister visits all the time, & this is my only chance for the next yr to be with my mom - who's been going crazy since I left (I'm the baby). & Mom is pissed that sis is staying so long! I just want us to crowd in together, but my sis is basically saying if I don't stay i but my sis is basically saying if I don't stay in the hotel, she will have to. But no one told her to stay for that long, and just because technically I can afford it, doesn't mean it wouldn't put a dent in my budget - I already spent over 1000 on this trip! How do you deal with family like this??
Public Comments
- Well, your mother obviously wants you there, and I think that's what you should base your decision on... I think that if your sister wants to be immature, then let her. It's the holidays, and everyone wants to be with family. If she stays in the hotel, she'll have HER immediate family. You would be alone without your husband, which I feel is unsafe. You can give up your room and sleep on the couch?! I think that you two should talk and try to compromise, but if she can't then I would tell her TOUGH. You're right... you didn't fly all the way to -- to stay at a hotel. I hope you two can come to some agreement. I actually agree that it's better to just crowd everyone in.
