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Who should stay where for the holidays?

Okay here is the situation in third person: Mom lives with fiance in 2 bedroom 1 bathroom house. Mom has 2 daughters coming in for the holidays. Daughter 1 lives in state and visits twice a month, staying in the spare bedroom. She is married with a 1 yr old and pregnant. She's been living with her brother in law because they are having financial problems. But she wants to get a hotel for a week to visit. Daughter 2 lives out of the country, hasn't been home for a year, and will be coming alone as her husband is working. She planned on staying in a hotel for a few days around christmas to make room for everyone, and then return and sleep on the couch for the next few days after the brother in law left to go to work. There are no financial problems, just a desire to spend time with everyone. If this was your family - who would stay where? Thanks for all the input! Yes, clearly I'm the second daughter. My problem is: my sister is telling everyone that she Wants to stay in a hotel for the week because there isn't enough room for her, her husband, the baby & all their stuff. But she's doing it to make me feel guilty & look bad for not staying in the hotel myself. I know she's intimidated to have me home because everyone is very excited to see me again. But the way she is acting is making it difficult for me to remember that I really want to spend time with her & my nephew. (Plus, I'm young, & both my husband & mom have an issue with me going to the hotel alone at night - & I'm not flying across the world to stay in a hotel. I'm used to always staying in my old room with my family. My sister visits all the time, & this is my only chance for the next yr to be with my mom - who's been going crazy since I left (I'm the baby). & Mom is pissed that sis is staying so long! Do I feel guilty & go to a hotel - or take the couch?

Public Comments

1. not really but at the same time, where is the most comfortable pillow? take the pillow, and come with me baby!
2. I'd rent an RV, hook it up in the drive-way, and let everyone stay.
3. the one with the financial issues should stay at the house because it would be less trouble for her i guess
4. Forget them all and go to the Bahama's
5. It depends on how the invitation was issued by the person who pays the rent ( mother or fiance or both) Did they invite both people? Did the out of the country daughter decline but say she would stay in a hotel? It all comes back to basic etiquette of invitations and acceptance or regrets. Thats the only way it works since the guests are not running the show
6. #1 I stopped staying with my grumpy old dad long ago! LOL No really, couldn't they all stay in the same house? I slept on a sofa while i was pregnant but I'm sure my pompous sister didn't care. Ask daughter 2 if she minds a blow up mattress or couch. It's really up to them whether they want to stay at the house or not. If it's only once a year, I'm sure they could get a long and have a great time. Just plan some things so you arent sitting around. Have fun and Merry Christmas!
7. it should not matter. have some people sleep on couch or floor.
8. Well if you don't have a financial problem then get a hotel..let the other person with financial problems have the freebie. You can have a good visit in hotel or you could do the old fashion way sleep on the couch, on the floor, or go buy you an air mattress for about 30.00 bucks at wal-mart.
9. If people want to stay in a hotel and there just isn't enough room for them then let them. Don't feel guilty about this. As a gift pay for the hotel rooms. If you are the one having finacial difficulty then talk with your mom and sister about the problem and that you can't afford to spend the money for a hotel. Everyone should just be honest and help eachother out if you want to just spend time with eachother.
10. miss B, #1 needs the spare room shes the one who visits and needs the spare bucks,for other things not hotels.they all should get together for meals and fun ....good holidays to all of you
11. Hi - I say both daughters/sisters should stay with mom. 1. The sister that lives out of the country will have a great opportunity to get to know her niece/nephew and spend some quality time with mom and sis. 2. The sister that is having financial problems, can perhaps forget a little bit about those problems and enjoy the company of her sister and mom. The holidays are about being together and making memories. I bet you can all fit in the kitchen and bake some really yummy cookies.. Make some hot chocolate with marshmallows in the evening and play some Christmas music and play some board games and well.. just talk. :-) You'll be surprise how fast that week will go.... As far as sleeping arrangements, I would say the spare bedroom goes to the sister with the baby and the hubby, especially since it sounds like the hubby has to work for most of the week and it is a bit easier to have all 3 in one room. The other daughter can sleep on the couch, the floor or an air mattress. The most important thing is to make this a great time together. Happy Holidays :-) T.