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PLEASE HELP!?
I have been living with my partner in the Middle East for a couple of years now and we love one another. But lately we've been arguing. My partner financially has nothing and I have quite a lot of money. It is my wish for us to both buy a house in our names so it can be our home. But my partner is dead against it. He says he loves me and would marry me at any second but does not wish to take the financial burden of buying a house. I just don't get it..I want a nice home for us but he says he doesn't want to take a risk . i.e. take a loan..but the loan would be very affordable ..very small..he still doesn't want to. He says he wants his money for holidays and enjoyment etc and doesn't want to spend it on a house. I am really frustrated and starting to resent him. I want a lovely home for us. Instead of him feeling..great! I have a woman I love and she's got money to but us a house, he seems to not want to take that step. My family say, well..if he doesn't want to, it'll be his loss. What should I do? We are both 30 years old.
Public Comments
- I think he is being selfish, and doesn't care about your future together.
- You have given one reason why you are not married. A courtship is the time to find out about your partner, before you get married. No one can tell you why your partner does not agree with you. He may be feeling a little inferior to his wife with money (men have big egos). He may not want to settle down - and buying a house is a big "settling down" factor. If I were you, I would be really worried about buying a house 50-50 with a partner that doesn't like the idea. What happens if you break up in the future? The house gets sold, and you get half the money - maybe less in the Middle East. I would take his reaction as a way of saying, "I'm not ready to make a serious committment with you". You will not change him - THAT'S FOR SURE. So you have to decide if his decision is okay with you - or if it is time to look for a new partner. It's your decision, girl, not his... stay or move on. Don't try to analyze his thinking - that's impossible. Far better for you to understand what your reaction is and what you are going to do about it.
