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How to get financial help when you have nothing to offer?
I am the Wife of a Soldier serving in Iraq. After 20 years I just found out he has a 3 year old Son. I have been a wife and mother that stayed home to take care of the home. The Military misdiagnoised me a few years ago that took away my ability to work for the rest of my life. I cant get disability, I can't sue. Now I need a loan to get me in a position to take care of my children and myself. I refuse to be a victim in this whole crazy situation. I know what to do. I'm just unable to do because of finances. So how do I get help????
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- try google
- Why can't you get disability? I know most people don't like it but I would call social services, welfare, or whatever it is called in your state and seek assistance. You don't have to be on it forever; I don't know the details of your situation. Contact local agencies and find out what type of help they can give you.
- First piece of advice - stop saying what you can't do. Take one deep breath. Focus on one problem to be solved - perhaps the "misdiagnosis" - I'm not sure what it is, but perhaps a non military doctor can find you cured. Disability - I'm not sure why you would or wouldn't qualify - however, there are programs (like WIC and SSI) which may help you with food and finances. Go to your SSI office and find out what is available. Family / Friends / Church - They can be a tremendous support system to you during these troubled times. Perhaps you can find someone to swap child care with you while each other runs chores, finds work. Financial house in order - if there are assets, you are eligible for at least half of them. If you move to New York and your husband is guilty of adultery (and the 3 year could prove it), you can get more than half of the estate. Make sure you also get half of his pension, and have him throw in life time health care for you (after 20 years marriage, you have a pretty good shot at getting that). Try someone's finance program like Dave Ramsey - he calls his baby steps to financial freedom - you can get enough from his website, you don't have to buy his program - although if you call in, he often times will give you one of his books or financial peace university programs for free. If necessary, freeze all of his assets if you're afraid that he might take the money and run. You can do it - I will pray for strength for you.
- What kind of help are you needing? In your situation, you need help in several areas. First of all, you didn't know about the son, so this is apparently not a situation where you are having to raise a young child. Second, many times the military will intervene if his misconduct has caused harm to his family. Contact his commanding officer and work through the military's chain of command. As far as being disabled is concerned, I'd go to my local vocational or career training center and see if you qualify for retraining to perhaps enter another profession. As far as finances are concerned, you might try (again) the military. There are resources out there. Just don't give up. All of them take some time and a lot of patience to work your way through the system, but you sound as if you truly deserve the help. Good luck
